It’s long overdue. The time has come to finally end things. Saying good-bye is rarely easy. Breakups are painful, yet at times they are absolutely necessary.
Breakups can cause you to doubt yourself and your decisions. Reminders are often everywhere of what you’re leaving behind, making it that much more difficult to move on. You fear change and you fear the unknown. We can all do without the pain of breakups.
Most of you, I’m sure envisioned a breakup of a relationship. Yes, those are difficult, but today I’m referring to breaking up with old and damaging mindsets. Old mindsets that tell us anything other than that we are fearfully and wonderfully made keep us from being the very best version of ourselves and living within our God given purpose.
Life has a way of bombarding us with harmful mindsets. These often come from pain caused by other people or situations. Many of us unfortunately have struggled with a mindset that has told us we’re not________ enough. Not smart enough, good enough, beautiful enough, spiritual enough, and the list goes on. The truth is…. you are enough. The time has come to start believing that.
Uncovering that my ex-husband has narcissistic traits was one of the most revealing and healing moments in my journey post-divorce. One of the things I talk about in my book, Reigning in the Storm, was how his decision to get married for a third time, two years after our sixteen year marriage ended, to a woman I knew and he worked with, left me constantly asking myself questions like, “What more could I have done?” or “Why wasn’t I enough?” or “What made her better?” Through several years of being intentional about prayer, counseling, and self-reflection, I arrived at a place where I finally understood it was time to break-up with that mindset that I wasn’t good enough (because I was and am 🙂 ).
Breakups are hard and unpleasant but they can be life-changing for the better. A break-up with the old mindsets that may have been instilled in you can be the best break-up you ever experienced. And what’s even better is that your replacement will be all that you imagined and more.
It’s time to say good-bye to old mindsets and hello to the start of something new and amazing. A new you!
“…but one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead. I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:13-14